When you are within a relationship it is indeed very difficult to differentiate what is cheating and what is an entirely normal behavior.
Of course, it would be very convenient to believe the latter, however, you also do not want to be in a state of denial when dealing with the situation.
Therefore, just like looking at a piece of painting, you need to be able to step back and look at the bigger picture.
By evaluating certain signs that your partner is cheating on you, you can definitely save yourself some grief of feeling like an idiot when all the red flags have been surrounding you.
Here are some common sample scenarios that may help you save some face and get a clue.
1. Out of reach
When your partner says he or she will call you back and never did, then you try to reach him or her but the phone, by some unexplained phenomenon, gets turned off frequently, it means that something fishy may be going on. He or she may not want to be disturbed.
2. Long hours at work
Work is the most convenient justification and explanation to any circumstance where a cheating partner may not want to be asked too many questions about his whereabouts.
Many cheating partners find it easy to use work as a scapegoat because it’s easier and it earns them good impressions that they are hardworking people. Yes, hardworking, alright. Perhaps, working someone else even harder!
3. Something Fishy
When mutual friends act weirdly around you there is definitely a reason for that. If they change the topic when you enter the room, or seem uncomfortable when you are around, then chances are they may have been discussing the affair before you came in.
4. A new Facebook account
There’s only one reason why a committed partner would create a new Facebook account behind your back, this is to meet “Friends” he or she doesn’t want you to ask about.
Facebook, or any other online dating sites, is the easiest and most popular way to meet new love interests.
So if you bump into a familiar account with his or her photo on it and it says “single” on the Basic information box, then you can bet there’s truly some level of cheating involved.
5. Strange Phone Calls
If you pick up the ringing phone and nobody talks on the other line then it gets cut off, and this happens most of the time, there’s a big possibility that it’s the other party who is calling to see if your partner picks up.
They don’t bother to talk because if it’s not his or her voice they hear, all they have to just really do is to hang up. So don’t fool yourself into believing that it’s always a wrong number a few nights in a row at 11pm.
6. Heavily Tinted Car
If your partner suddenly has an urge to tint his windshield darker than usual and he or she has never had a problem with that car’s windows for a decade and a half now, then you might want to probe more about this idea.
Unless your partner is a newly-discovered celebrity or a member of the mafia clan, this idea may be a big cheating sign. Generally, cheaters do not want to inconvenience the other party by having him or her dock for 5 kilometers until they reach the local motel joint.
7. Stops wearing the wedding ring
The removal of the marriage band is the most classic symptom of a cheater. So do not even think twice about looking into the matter.
Not unless from the onset you and your partner have had the arrangement that the wearing of wedding rings is optional, then there’s really nothing to fear.
8. Buys new underwear
If your partner suddenly looks like he raided the nearest Calvin Klein outlet, or if she looks like she has more lingerie than a Victoria’s Secret model, then you better consider investigating. A newly discovered sex life outside of your bedroom can push your partner to impress the new partner by showing off new sets of underwear.
9. Sleeps with the cell phone hidden under the pillow
A cheater knows that his or her cell phone is his or her closest link to the other woman, or man. Therefore, cheaters are very careful in guarding these controversial little electronic gadgets with their lives.
If your partner used to just leave his or her phone scattered in the house, then suddenly begins to heavily safeguard it like an Alcatraz jail warden, then there’s something really fishy going on.
10. Talks in the other room
When your partner begins to secretively whisper when he or she is talking on the phone, or when he or she transfers to the other room when talking on the phone, then it is a great indication that he or she doesn’t want you to hear the conversation.
Perhaps your partner is trying to pacify his or her other love interest for not showing up the other day when you asked him to accompany you to the grocery store, or that he or she is trying to explain why he or she couldn’t get out of the house as of the moment.
11. Spick and span inbox
If you are used to your partner being a very sloppy and messy email inbox keeper then you suddenly discover it to be as clean as a housekeeper’s house, chances are he or she has been deleting the things they don’t want you to see.
If you have had access to his or her inbox then you might as well check the trash items then, if your partner careful, you may discover some useful items there.
12. A sudden facial glow
According to studies, when a person is having more sex than he or she is used to, physical indicators will definitely show.
A facial glow, a change of bodily scent, a firmer and more toned gluteal area (buttocks) and a more developed chest, for women. This is due to the hormones being produced more than usual.
13. Stops having sex
The ultimate cheating giveaway is when your partner stops having sex or suddenly rarely gets physically involved with you. The reason for this is guilt.
Sex is the ultimate expression of emotional feelings in a romantic relationship and if there is any change in the quality, length, time and interval of your sexual intimacy than what used to be normal, then perhaps it can be safe to consider that your partner has some emotional detachment from you, predisposed by an affair.
Disclaimer: Spying may be an offense in your jurisdiction or country to monitor the activities of other individuals. So depending on where you are located, please consult your attorney before resorting to any spying.
Incoming search terms:
- what does it mean when your boyfriend accuses you of cheating
- Signs of Facebook Cheating
- my boyfriend has a secret Facebook account
- husband has secret facebook account
- boyfriend sleeps with phone under pillow
- girlfriend is hiding her phone under the pillow
- My husband sleeps with his phone under the pillow is he cheating
- wife sleeps with phone under pillow